| Set | Subject | Object | Possessive | Reflexive | Said like |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| They/Them | they | them | their | themselves | thay / them / thair / thairz / them-SELVZ |
| Ze/Zir | ze | zir | zir | zirself | zee / zeer / zeer / zeerz / zeer-SELF |
| Fae/Faer | fae | faer | faer | faerself | fay / fair / fair / fairz / fair-SELF |
| E/Em (Spivak) | e | em | eir | emself | ee / em / air / airz / em-SELF |
| Ve/Ver | ve | ver | vis | verself | vee / vur / viz / viz / vur-SELF |
| Per/Pers | per | per | pers | perself | pur / pur / purz / purz / pur-SELF |
| Co/Cos | co | co | cos | coself | koh / koh / kohz / kohz / koh-SELF |
| Sie/Hir | sie | hir | hir | hirself | see / heer / heer / heerz / heer-SELF |
| Xe/Xem | xe | xem | xyr | xemself | zee / zem / zeer (rhymes with here); some say ksee |
| Ze/Hir | ze | hir | hir | hirself | zee / here |
| Ey/Em | ey | em | eir | emself | ay / em / air |
| It/Its | it | it | its | itself | |
| Ne/Nem | ne | nem | nir | nemself | |
| Ae/Aer | ae | aer | aer | aerself | |
| Thon | thon | thon | thons | thonself | thun (rhymes with done, with the th of the) |
| Name-only (no pronouns) | [name] | [name] | [name]'s | [name] |
They/Them
The most widely used gender-neutral pronoun in English, and the oldest: singular they has been in the language for centuries.
they · them · their · themselves
Ze/Zir
Ze/zir is the best-known neopronoun: a fresh subject word, ze, with an object form, zir, that behaves like her.
ze · zir · zir · zirself
Fae/Faer
Fae/faer is a neopronoun borrowed from the word for fairy folk; it declines like she/her and is mostly used online.
fae · faer · faer · faerself
E/Em (Spivak)
The Spivak set is they/them with the th cut off: e, em, eir, eirs, emself. It is singular, easy to say, and has a documented history.
e · em · eir · emself
Ve/Ver
Ve/ver is a neopronoun with a science-fiction pedigree: ve, ver, vis, vis, verself, best known from Greg Egan's novels.
ve · ver · vis · verself
Per/Pers
Per/pers is short for person: per is the subject and object, pers the possessive, perself the reflexive. A novelist made it famous.
per · per · pers · perself
Co/Cos
Co/cos is a 1970 feminist coinage still used in some intentional communities: co, co, cos, cos, coself.
co · co · cos · coself
Sie/Hir
Sie/hir pairs a subject word said like see with hir, a blend of him, his and her. It dates from the early 1990s online.
sie · hir · hir · hirself
Xe/Xem
Xe is a neopronoun that works exactly like he or she in a sentence: xe is, xe does, singular all the way.
xe · xem · xyr · xemself
Ze/Hir
Ze/hir pairs a new subject word, ze, with hir, a blend of him, his and her that is said exactly like "here".
ze · hir · hir · hirself
Ey/Em
Ey/em is they/them with the th dropped: ey went, I saw em, eir book, it is eirs, ey did it emself.
ey · em · eir · emself
It/Its
It/its is a real, chosen pronoun for some people, and a slur when used on anyone who did not choose it. Consent is the whole rule.
it · it · its · itself
Ne/Nem
Ne/nem is a neopronoun on the pattern of he/him: ne is, I saw nem, nir coat, it is nirs, ne did it nemself.
ne · nem · nir · nemself
Ae/Aer
Ae/aer is a neopronoun from a 1920 science-fiction novel, now used by real people: ae is, I saw aer, aer coat, it is aers, aerself.
ae · aer · aer · aerself
Thon
Thon is the oldest neopronoun on record: proposed in 1858 as a squeeze of "that one", once in a dictionary, now in use again.
thon · thon · thons · thonself
Name-only (no pronouns)
Some people use no pronouns at all: you use their name every time, or rephrase. It is a practice, not a set.
[name] · [name] · [name]'s · [name]