Exploring gender identities
Working it out, or deliberately declining to. Both are places to stand, not waiting rooms.
- Three identities
- none with a settled flag
The places to stand while the question is open: finding out, and deliberately not settling it. Neither is a waiting room. Each has its own page, written for the person in the middle of it rather than for the person who has decided.
Three identities sit under Exploring here: Questioning, Quoigender and Pomogender.
Each has its own page: what it feels like day to day, how it differs from the ones next to it, and honest reasons it might not be you. The cards below are the short version. It suggests. You decide.
All three Exploring identities
Flag, name, one line. The full description is one click away.
You don't know yet — and the not-knowing stopped being a passing thought a while ago and became somewhere you live.
Not "my gender is none" — "I can't find what that question is pointing at."
A gender that's definitely there and won't go into words — not for lack of trying, but because none of the available words are the right shape.
Flags in this category
None of the three Exploring identities has a settled community flag, so each shows as a hatched swatch. Inventing a flag for someone else’s identity isn’t ours to do.
Compare within Exploring
The distinction is the useful part. Side by side, the difference stops being abstract.
Not sure where you fit?
Forty-eight questions across six dimensions, about ten minutes, then a ranked shortlist rather than a verdict. Scoring runs on your device; nothing you answer leaves it.
Other categories
Eight more categories, 135 more identities. See all 138 in one place →
Binary
Gender identity that lines up with the sex assigned at birth. Cis is a description, not a default.
Transgender
Gender identity that differs from the sex assigned at birth. An umbrella, not a single experience.
Non-Binary
Identities outside the man/woman binary. Both, neither, in between, or something else entirely.
Demigender
A partial connection to a gender. Some of it fits, and the rest is something else.
Fluid
Gender that moves. The identity itself shifts, or its intensity does, or both.
Agender
The absence of gender, in its various shapes — none, null, void, or simply not applicable.
Xenogender
Genders described through things other than man and woman: light, sound, weather, growth, colour.
Cultural
Third and other genders recognised within specific cultures, most of them older than the word "transgender".
