Pronouns are the small words people use for you when they don't use your name: she, he, they, and many others. For a lot of people they're automatic. For others, one set feels like a scratchy jumper and another feels like home.
Your pronouns don't have to "match" a particular gender. A non-binary person might use she/her; a woman might use she/they; someone might prefer just their name. Pronouns are about how you'd like to be talked about, nothing more and nothing less.
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What pronouns are
Pronouns are the small words people use for you when they don't use your name. Your pronouns don't have to match a particular gender: they're about how you'd like to be talked about.
- they/them: widely used, and already part of everyday English
- she/her and he/him: the familiar sets, used by people of every gender
- Neopronouns like xe/xem or fae/faer: sets created to be used in place of she, he or they
- Name only: no pronoun at all, just your name
How to try a new set
Try a set in your head first, or write a short paragraph about yourself using it. You could also ask one trusted friend to use it for a while.
Relief, comfort or a small smile are good signs. You can always change your mind later.
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How do I figure out my pronouns?
Notice how different pronouns feel when you hear or read them about yourself. You can try them in your head, write a short paragraph about yourself with each set, or ask one trusted friend to use a new set for a while. Relief, comfort or a small smile are good signs. You can always change your mind later.
Do my pronouns have to match my gender?
No. Pronouns describe how you'd like to be referred to, not a label you have to prove. Plenty of non-binary people use she/her or he/him, some women and men use they/them, and some people mix sets, like she/they. What matters is that the words feel right to you and that the people around you use them.
What are neopronouns?
Neopronouns are pronoun sets created to be used in place of she, he or they. Examples include xe/xem, ze/zir, ze/hir, fae/faer and ey/em. People choose them because they feel more personal, or because none of the everyday sets fit. Our neopronouns guide explains how to use them.
Is it okay to use more than one set of pronouns?
Yes. Many people use two sets, like she/they or he/they, and are happy with either. Some people are fine with any pronouns. Others switch depending on how they feel, as some genderfluid people do. If you use more than one set, you can tell people whether you'd like them mixed or whether either one is fine.
Can I change my pronouns later?
Of course. Pronouns aren't a contract. Lots of people try a set for a while and then settle on another, or go back to the one they had before. Changing isn't a sign that you got it wrong; it's just learning more about yourself. Tell the people you trust when you're ready, and at your own pace.
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